Scott Groves LPC

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2019 New Year's Resolutions: Don't stop! Start Over!

Most people have quit by now.

As I write this we are a month into the second quarter of 2019. Most people had big dreams almost five short months ago of accomplishing some great feat this year, whether that was losing weight, working on their relationships, self-improvement, etc. And by now most people have QUIT! Most have stopped hitting the gym, stopped reading the books, and are right back in the relationship, job, or personal rut that put them there in the first place.

But Why?

Is it because the goal was too hard, too small, not motivating enough? Of course the answer is none of the above. The answer is that they didn’t have a measurable goal in the first place. Oh they had a wish, a dream perhaps. They had an idea that this year would be the year for change, for a fresh start. This would be the year they finally did it (whatever ‘it’ is)! But the dream was never planned and a dream without a plan is a wish!

The goal wasn’t measurable.

If the goal, plan, or dream doesn’t have a timeframe attached to it, what are the chances of reaching it? How many successful people in any area of life got there by wishing they would make it without actually having a game plan? And I mean truly successful people. I am not talking about lottery winners and trust fund babies. I would venture a guess that NO ONE who has experienced success in any endeavor simply had a dream, got lucky, and it magically happened.

Start now!!

If I am describing you it isn’t too late. The year isn’t over. Take 30 minutes, sit down, put pen to paper and start planning. Here is the template:

  • When do you want to lose the total weight (improve the relationship, become more productive, etc.) by? Set a date, write it down.

  • Measure backwards: How much do you want to lose in the next six months? The next three months, the next month?

  • What is your process? Which gym will you join? How often will you go? Do you need a trainer? What exactly are you going to do when you get there? How does your diet need to support this? (that may be another goal entirely)

It really is that easy! But you’ve got to take the time to plan it. Start now!

And remember:

A dream that never gets planned is just a wish